Caregiving

Words & Photography
by Stef Etow



Everyday I count my blessings as I soak up all the love and humor and joy this little guy brings into my life. But every once in a while, when he is at once a medically fragile child and confused senior, I count my breaths as I navigate the stress of what turns into caretaking. It's helpful to understand the difference.

When we give care, we in turn give care to ourselves. When we take care, there's an inherent expectation and subsequent letdown. And in turn, we misinterpret the concept of self-care as selfish. Hence, #momguilt.

...for all the moms, dads, and caregivers in the world, it's ok to put on our oxygen mask first. We cannot give fully unless we are full ourselves.

So, for all the moms, dads, and caregivers in the world, it's ok to put on our oxygen mask first. We cannot give fully unless we are full ourselves.